A recently published survey of women found that nearly half believed that erectile dysfunction was their fault and nearly 20% felt that their partner no longer found them attractive. Over a third of the women surveyed stated that erectile dysfunction had a negative effect on their relationship, but almost half of the women didn’t discuss it with their partners (AKA suffering in silence).
Considering that half of men over the age of forty suffer from erectile dysfunction, these numbers are astounding.
One of the first things I stress when meeting a man with ED is that this is a physical disease, not a mental one. My evaluation consists of hormonal studies and blood flow studies to prove this. In twenty years of treating men, I can count on one hand the times I have not found a definitive physiologic cause of ED. I also encourage the guys to share this with their partners so as to get the elephant out of the room and start the healing process.
If you are reading this and your partner has ED, please know that it is not you. And if you are struggling with ED, please understand that your partner is probably having some doubts about the relationship. I would love to find the exact problem and help you to fix it. Please feel free to contact me if I can be of help.